TOM and 1PD

[UnspeakableJoy]

Calling all 1PD ladies!

Will you please share your experience when TOM comes? I know everyone is different, but I'm just curious how TOM affects your body while on 1PD.

For me, I've been grumpier than usual, but I believe that's because I no longer turn to food for comfort, so I have to just deal with my grumpy ol' self. I haven't had any cravings and my cramps which are usually excruiating, are very manageable. I also haven't retained any water (don't feel like I did anyway) and am not bloated. I still have fatigue prior to TOM, but noticed this time is was for 3 days instead of the usual entire week, but I will try a second vitamin next month and see how that works.

So all in all, for my first TOM on 1PD, I couldn't be happier!

I apologize in advance if someone else brought this up in a previous thread! And no offense to our active 1PD guys for not including you in on this post :)

[Lauren]

For me, last week was so awful, I stayed in bed all day...although it was all emotional. Emotionally, it was the worst one I ever had, and I'm sure part of it was that I couldn't satisfy all my cravings so I felt sorry for myself and just wanted to "check out" from the world for a day. The cramping wasn't as bad (although I took my usual Motrins to try to stay on top of it) and I didn't feel too bloated either, although I believe I stopped losing weight that week, and now it's coming off pretty rapidly a week later, which is great, so I must have been retaining water. Anyway, that's my POV. :)

[drexel]

Yeah I had mine after about 1 week on the diet. I didn't lose weight for a few days and didn't understand why, so that was frustrating. Then it came almost unannounced, which NEVER happens. No migraine a couple days earlier, etc. And I KNOW that was from the change in diet. While I did have to take advil a couple times, it was probably the best one I can recall having. My parents were in town so I had to entertain them AND go out to dinner with them twice, bringing my food scale and being much too high maintenance than I'm comfortable with in a restaurant. But everything went smoothly. I didn't have to stay in bed for a couple days or get lots of extra sleep or ANYTHING. It was shocking to me. I think the sugar and fat I tend to eat during PMS causes it to be worse. That's my theory. No sugar, no chocolate, no fatty foods and an easy week. Oh and it lasted only about 4 days instead of the whole week.

[Lauren]

Oh yeah--and mine was super light this time, which is very unusual for me.

[drexel]

yeah me too.

[Mei Mei]

I'll let you know in a few days. Feels like I am about to start. yikes. Can't remember the other one. It seemed lighter.

[UnspeakableJoy]

Thanks Girls!! This one is lighter too, which I'm not complaining about one bit!

[Rachinnj]

My TOM has been all messed up since I started. I was 2 wks late last month and heading in the same direction this month.

Now the cool part I alwasy gain 5 lbs before my period with out fail. Its just my body retaining water but since on 1Pd I don't . I just dont lose weight the wk before I get it. But I don't gain.

Now If I just actually get it life will be good LOL

Rachel

[Blondie4life]

I will agree with all of you.. mine has been lighter, however since being on the program (about 8 weeks) I've had 4 weeks on my period! I know, tell me about it! The first month I started early then off a week then on a week, then repeat last steps again...then I had a two week break :)... but now I'm on again?!?! Very frustrating!:crying:

[MIMI]

Sorry, ladies but i can't help you. I went thru menopause when i turned 40. Aren't i the lucky one!! LOL :love8: my mother and two of my sisters all went thru menopause early. I hope everyone feels better. MIMI

[Mei Mei]

Now that you mention it...This is my third in 6 weeks. Proof that our hormones are being affected isn't it? I think that may explain why this past weekend was so lousy. I wish I could say that things are better. I feel pretty yucky, and bloated. Not as much as usual, but the weight is holding fast! That's ok though. I'll be dreaming about the end. I'm going to go take a nap. that will help me not want comfort food. I did eat steak last night, thanks for that idea Pam. I probalby will again tonight. I don't think I'd ever get sick of steak!
Mary

[PosterGal]

Hmm, good question. I was a week late last month - but that could be due to the stress of my Dad's illness? I did notice that I didn't loose a thing the week before or during, but a bunch the next week - like 4 lbs. I'm at a plateau rihgt now, the week before. I don't know. . . but I'm not stepping on the scale. The bummer of it is that might week 8 weigh in will be here before it's over. Oh well, such is life. . .not easy being a girl!

Oh and also, about the 4-5 days before I am totally HUNGRY - STARVING and nothing seems to fill me up - and I'm jones-ing for crappy food - chocolate, dortito's etc. . . not fun.

Any suggestion on how to get past those cravings??

[Mei Mei]

That's exactly how I have been feeling. More rest, more water, a warm bath a fun activity or hobby, and prayer. Thats what I am using, but it is still very, very hard! Femaleness!!!
Mary

[PosterGal]

Hi Ladies -

Please pray for me - twice now in the last two days I've totally goofed up on this diet - I'm late and my hormones are out of control - and I totally blew it - two days in a row! Yikes. Please pray for me! Ugh. . .ugh, ugh! I'm planning on the rest of the day being 100% - and tomorrow my DH will be around, so there will be some accountability! UGH!!

[Lauren]

Naughty naughty!!! YOU are the one in control of this thing, so get yourself together and get your mind back in the "zone". Of course you know you can do this! Do you want to throw away everything you've just worked so hard for? Do you want to be on this diet longer than you have to? Or do you want to just get it done? It's all in your mind, so just set yourself straight and don't even look at other foods. Don't give yourself the option to cheat, because as soon as you do, the whole world opens up all kinds of doors for you to cheat in, and that's not going to get you to your goal. Of course your hormones are out of control--that is very bad for your body to throw yourself off like that. Yesterday was a tough one for me. That's right--apparently you can still have difficult days on refeed. EVERYTHING in the grocery store was calling my name. I especially wanted cake...carrot cake with cream cheese frosting. Or chocolate. I think because I'm having bread once a day now, it's making my body crave more refined flour or something. I don't know, but I REALLY wanted to cheat last night, but I would NEVER. It's a funny feeling because I feel like I just CAN'T. I wouldn't be able to bring myself to do it. I wouldn't be able to live with the guilt. And it's funny because it's not like somebody is stopping me. I am the one who is not letting it happen. I am the one in control, yet I do feel like it's bigger than me. And maybe it has to do with being a part of this forum. Let's use our collective energy to hold each other up in times of weakness. I think about you guys and I wouldn't want to disappoint you or let anyone down who wanted to cheat but didn't. How would I feel if I was off eating cake while you guys are all suffering? So don't let that happen again. It just isn't healthy anyway. You want to give yourself a gift? Give yourself willpower!!! You can do it!! No more cheating all the way to goal now. You'll be so happy when you're done and not feeling guilty if you don't cheat from here on to the end. The long-term rewards of this diet are worth so much more than a few moments of good flavors in your mouth. And you can enjoy those good flavors again when you're done. BE PATIENT.

[Mei Mei]

Gianna,
I will. Don't give in. You have the will and the strength, and when you are tempted, you know where to get help. Food is not our help. This past week has been extremely difficult for me also, and I have really had to remind myself of that these past few days.

My Tom started big time yesterday, and I have been worried sick about my daughter. I took her to the specialist today, and she is ok, just a bad virus, but with her, I never know. I'm so relieved. The reason I tell you this is that yesterday was one of the worst days I can remember. I'm so stressed out and worried about her and fI eel like you know what physically. But I got over it ; today is a new day and much improved. Just take a bath and go to bed on those days. I know 9 pm after kids are in bed seems really far away when the whole day stinks. God Bless,
Mary

[UnspeakableJoy]

Well, my TOM just ended - it was pretty light, but about 3 days longer than usual. I've never had problems or issues - ever - so it will be interesting to see what next TOM brings!

Gianna *hugs* You did what you did, so now move on and get back on track! I believe in you!

Mary - I will add your daughter to my prayers for a speedy recovery!

Lauren - I've had cake on my mind too, it's so crazy lol I don't want it, and will not cheat, but it's just been in the back of my mind.

[happytmo]

I was a week late. I felt like I had PMS for the two weeks before. :angry:
I took the extra vitamin for a few of those days. I had huge cravings too.

[MIMI]

PosterGal, move on, you cheated and you feel bad and you have beat yourself up and so now it's time to move on. NO MORE DEVIATION!!! You will be OK move on now. YOU CAN DO IT. MIMI

[PosterGal]

Thanks everyone - I'm done with that mess up - and you know what? I'm not going to beat myself up over that. I don't think it's always just mind over matter, nor does beratement from others help me. Encouragement is what I needed - and thank you to all of those who offered it! I got back on plan, and focused on just that day - and I'm back in the game. This is a process for all of us, and learning as we go! Thanks guys - you're the best!

[Lauren]

Wow, Postergal--I just re-read what I wrote that day and I'm so sorry I came off so harshly! I must have been particularly crabby with my cravings, etc. and I think I was jealous that you got to taste something yummy and I'm still stuck here. You are absolutely right--you need SUPPORT, and I certainly didn't give you that. I think I thought I was helping by telling you things you might not have thought of, but it just came across as a rant. I'm so sorry about that!!! I'm so glad to know you're back on track and everything. I feel like I've been going around this forum telling everyone what to do and I need to stop. I don't know any more than you guys, just because I've done the diet before. I'm going to back off. Also, I'm really sorry to hear your dad has been ill. That must be really hard for you. I can't imagine going through something truly emotional without having the freedom to eat what I want. You have true strength to stick with this program!!! That's something I'm working on learning right now--emotion does not equal hunger--because that's been a real problem for me, I think. Anyway, again--I am sorry I said what I did. You're doing great!!

[MIMI]

Lauren, don't you dare back off! You do a wonderful job of encouraging us. We need you, so please don't back off. LOL MIMI

[drexel]

yeah i totally screwed up this month when i had pms. i mean...to...tal...ly. you all would have probably laughed your @$$es off if you'd seen the ridiculous combinations and quantities. it was like i snapped! looking back at it, it really was quite funny. two night in a row i screwed up. didn't lose any weight a few days before or during then gained 2 from my screw up. then i said "ok that's it" got back on the diet, lost it all and then some in like 2 days. and i'm not going to regret it because that's useless. just got my discipline back in, fixed it all and now all is well. things happen and we're all human. obviously it's best not to screw up like i did, but then if you do...well...you just get it together and fix it and make it right and move on. just like anything in life, you confront it head on and continue. here's to all of us for getting through the tough times. XO

[PosterGal]

Lauren - thanks - and this has been an emotional rollcoaster for me with my Dad and all. I just am the type of person who does better with encouragement. I'd never make it in the armed forces - LOL. And I agree with MIMI - please keep on posting.

Drexel - that's a great way to look at it - and I finally came to that point - we're human - move on. By the way, some of my combinations we're waaaaayy out there! But, I'm back and headed the right way again!

I think it's good for those of us who messed up to see someone else who did and turn it around - and that's the key, okay, turn it around, get back on plan. I may have messed up, but I'm not giving up! The ole 'pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again!'

Glad to be back in the game with you all!!