sorry about vanishing from the scene...

[cyberella]

my babyboy cut off the tip of his thumb almost completely (it hung on a piece of skin) in the garden door that was slamed shut by the wind...

i'm sorry, but i dont have the strength of posting a hell of a lot-
i'm so worried if the stiched on finger stays and wont bcome septic or anything-
i am so worn out from all this trauma 4 the kid and i cant praise or cheer 4 all of your brilliant successes and progress!!

i am very sorry bout that, but hope u all have an understanding 4 me!!!

thanx anyway- :sadeyes:

i wont stop posting, but i think i'll keep it small 4 now!!!

thanx again & please send us some good thoughz!
(we dont seem 2 b haunted by luck lately)

[BarbieGRRRL]

Good luck with the healing! It's always so much harder to deal with something that happens to one of our children. I remember the first time my son broke an arm... I was in hysterics. Never mind the fact that I shattered a foot and leg in an accident and still managed to finish a basketball game. When it's your CHILD you just want to take all the pain away and make it all better. Good luck over the next few weeks as you watch it heal. You and your baby are in our prayers. :praying:

[Iisrias]

Will keep you and your baby in my prayers - so sorry to hear about his accident! Little ones are resiliant - much stronger than we are it seems! Nothing worse than being afraid for your child, especially if they are hurting. I'm sure we all understand you not writing much, just gald that you're OK and still with us.

Take care of your baby and yourself too! Keep us posted.

[mama]

Cyberella - I am sorry to hear about your baby, it must be so painful!
I hope he will get better soon.
We miss you but understand if you can not be very 'active' in the forum right now.
:bighug: from all of us.

[Hugentobler]

Give your little guy a little lov'in from all of us. You take care of you and your little man. You are in our thoughts.

[Bronwyn]

Hi Dear Cyberella,

You know you and your little one are in my thoughts and prayers. I'm sure he'll heal up quite nicely - those babies are incredible!!! We'll miss you but understand if we don't hear from you as much right now. Please just let us know when you need US for encouragement, okay?? We'll be here.

All the best wishes to you...

[cyberella]

hey, girls!! :flower:
actually iz the first time since the accident that tears arose..
see, u all make me cry!! :( buhuhu!
na, just kidding!
i've been so "pulled 2gether" - that i didnt allow myself any break-downs, not in the clinic and not eversince, eventhough i felt incredibly bad! (about everything: guilt, not being able 2 take the pain on me, seeing how he suffered, was sedated and stiched while still screaming with every twinch and now about being worried...)

thank u 4 being there 4 me, even if i'm not there 4 u guys!!
i'm not used 2 that and very very grateful!!!

in a few hours (tuesday morning here) we go back 2 the hospital and get a new bandage.
we'll see how the wound is coming on and hope hope hope!

thanx again, my sweet:love4::love4:

[Hugentobler]

Keep us posted on how he is doing. I don't know anything worst then your own child's pain. Hang in there. These are the times that a great bottle of wine would help. Sorry...You'll have to save it for a later date.

[WorthyQueen]

Hey Cyberella,
I'm so sorry to hear about your little one's accident. i know how heart wrenching it can be to try and help them through something like that. If it's of any encouragement, I was a pre-school teacher when my kids were younger and a girl had a similar accident when leaving with her parents. Her finger was slammed in the door and she had stitches, but it healed well and never was an issue really after. Anyway, our hearts are with you. {grouphug2} Please do let us know how he is doing after your appointment.

PS. I'm glad you posted this thread - I was wondering where you were the last few days and missed your posts.

[Shasha]

{hi} there Cyberella

I'm so sorry to hear about your little man's finger :comfort: and please give him a :bighug: from me and from all of us! Is he still in a lot of pain? Your heart must have felt like breaking!

Well done on keeping it all together, you are a very strong lady! They say that if you want to see how strong a tea bag is, dip it in hot water. You've been dipped in boiling water and look at all your strength just flowing out from you!!

And you know that all our love and prayers are with both of you...


{grouphug2}

[cyberella]

whenever i get all your wonderfully loving and caring posts i end up being in tears...
but thaz a good way of release!

and i have good news:
as far as we can see, the finger stays on and seems 2 heal well-
the wound hasnt changed much since the day after the accident but that seems a good sign!! :)

he is an incredible little person, as he is not fuzzing around, is careful with his hand and was never much of a whiner or oversensitive 2 pain! (even when hurting himself hard he often never even interrupted his play.)

so, i'm on the lucky side here!!

my heart reaches out 2 all of u 4 being such wonderful ladies with so much care and love and support 4 each other!!!

this is a special "place" 2 b and i'm grateful 2 b part of this!

love love love... :innocent3::innocent3::innocent3:

[Shasha]

{hi} there Cyberella

Well that is really wonderful news!!! {bighug} What a relief you must feel!!!

:clapping3: you are so blessed to have such a wonderful little man in your life!

[Iisrias]

Yay! So glad things are going well for your little one. What a handsome boy! Love the new avatar! :love1:

[Bronwyn]

Hello Dear Babi!

Oh Joy Oh JOY!!! I'm so happy to hear that he is all right and that he seems to be healing nicely. They are amazingly resilient, those kids, huh? What a traumatic experience for you both, but you made it through and it can only get better from now on. Thanks for letting us know the results as I was truly anxious to hear word. And yes, he is gorgeous! It has dawned on me that our little guys are probably about the same age. Dylan was born 12/7/05. How about Elias?

[cyberella]

thank u 4 all the good thoughz and cheering and hoping ...
u all give me soo much strenght!!! :flower::love5:

elias :party1: is born on the 30th of dec.05-

the american writing of a date is always a bit confusing:
does that mean that your boybee is only 3 weex older than my little one?

and u r neighbour 2 my sister?
this is just so very amazing..

next thing we find out is that we have the same dad-- hahahaha!!!!

he, i have the feeling that the dark clouds around my head start lifting more often these days!! :praying:

[Bronwyn]

Hey! Yes, my boybee is only three weeks older than yours. Wow! My dad's name was Pat, how about you? Just kidding... Sort of...

My boy was 6 1/2 weeks premature so should have been born January 21st (or thereabouts). All was well when he was born, though, no trauma and he has always been healthy and HUGE!! He's almost 3 1/2 feet tall and 35 pounds.

Yes, the dark clouds are clearing and making room for the sunshine you deserve to enjoy. Glad you are starting to feel better and hope you are managing to take care of yourself through all of this.

[cyberella]

..something i want 2 know since 2 years: how is "elias" said/pronounced in americ. english?
someone told my sister u'd say >"ilaisha"<- is that correct?

wow and also wow! elias is only 11 kg (24 lbs)
- as i said: he's not like mommy=not much of an eater.

ya, i hope i can start enjoying the sunshíne now..
but as u carry on making my days, i sure will!! :love7::kiss::love7:

[Bronwyn]

Well I'll try to write how I'd say his name - I picture it two ways in my head: 1. il-I-as with the accent on the middle I or 2. ileeas with the accent on the "il". Am I close?

[WorthyQueen]

Yay! I am so happy to hear that Elias is doing well and healing! What a couragous little guy! :party1: You have been handling all of this amazingly well, too. That has probably helped him so much.

He is soooooooooooo cute! You must be very proud! By the way, we would not pronounce it as your sister suggested. That pronounciation would be spelled Elijiah. We would pronounce Elias just like it is spelled, like elyas or close to that anyway :) That is actually a name you would find here as well - not common, but still you would find it here (beautiful name, by the way!)

Yes, the sunshine is coming and you deserve to bask in it!

:bighug: to help see you through from all of us to youand Elias!

[cyberella]

.. i've tried 2 go 2 bed now, but i keep coming back here!!!

u all r amazing and awesome-- :innocent3:
and i can only try 2 xpress how overwelmed i am!!
but u might never really b able 2 imagine what tremendous support u r 4 me,
(esp. as i dont have that much help around here)!!

thank u all time and again so very much!!!
:bighug:{grouphug1}:bighug:

love, babi

[Megsy]

Hey Cyberella,
So glad you are both on the mend! Big hugs to you both! He's such a gorgeous little man - takes after his mum! May the sunshine continue to light up your days and the warmth comfort you at night.
Talk soon
xox

[cyberella]

a line of a song by al jarreau just came 2 mind and i would like 2 dedicate it 2 my lovely frienz in this great forum:

may u always have somebody 2 depend on,
and may your days b celebrations-
may there always b an angel on your shoulder,
2 help in akward situations!!!

out of 4 i had 3 which is not bad at all, i'd say!

part of it is due 2 all of u and i wish u the very same!!!

[mama]

Hey Cyberella,
I am so thrilled to hear that your little one is doing better. Let's hope this is going to be over soon. :praying:

[cyberella]

ya, thanx a lot, mama and all of u hoping and supporting darlings!!

2day he fell on his hand- something the doctors told us 2 b careful about!
i hope it wont b a problem though!!! :praying::praying:

on monday they will take out the stiches and i'm a bit scared, as he is always very nervous when we go 2 the clinic 4 a new bandage..

rite now i'm not all that good in taking anymore-
having so little food is making me weak all2gether.
(i started feeling hungry very often again-
they say iz bcause i come closer 2 goal-weight) and i also have a lot of hurting teeth (breast-fed 2 long)..

i know, it all will go by and everythings gonna b just fine-
we just have 2 get "through"..

[Bronwyn]

Hang in there sweet Babi. I know we keep saying that to you, but this too really shall pass. I wish we could be THERE for you physicallly too. Watch your boybee for you while you have a day to sleep and pamper yourself. I'm sorry you've got such little help and have to thank you for reminding me how lucky I am for the help and support I do have here. So often we take our loved ones for granted. Best of luck getting those stitches out. Your brave little man is sure having to go through a lot.

[Iisrias]

Cyberella - Have faith that things will go well on Monday, keep hope in your heart. I'll be thinking of you!

So sorry that your feeling unwell, take heart in the fact that it is because you ARE so close to your goal! Re-feed here you come!

I've never heard of breastfeeding causing tooth pain...would a calcium supplement help? I know for irritated gums, vitamin C is recommended...

Hang in there - like Bronwyn said, if only we were closer to help out! But, all we can do is send you BIG cyberhugs and cyberkisses...

[cyberella]

hey, sweet bronwyn and iisrias!!
soo very nice of u 2 "offer" helping me with the baby- iz the thought that counz and thaz what i "lean on", ok?!!! :)

some of my teeth hurt, cause they r dying-
as i have amalgam fillings i couldnt take care of a couple of teeth during pregnancy and breast-feeding and now iz 2 late 4 some of them!!! :sadeyes: (since i stopped nursing i had 2 root treatmenz already, 2 more 2 follow, it seems)

[Megsy]

Hey Cyberella,
Root canal work isnt much fun is it? And you seem to be so intune with yor body, there certainly isnt anything I can recommend to you yo help other than perhaps having a good chat with you teeth? (like the talk you had with you pancreas...) Couldn't hurt heh?
You are an amazing person and I feel honoured to be able to get to know you through this forum!
:love8: {boing}: :love3::innocent3: (my daughter just chose these smiley faces to send to u)

[Bronwyn]

Hey dear Babi,

How did your visit with the doctor go? Did Elias get his stitches out? I'm thinking of you and wishing you positive thoughts that it'll be quick, painless, and a smooth process.

Hugs,
Bron

[Shasha]

{hi} there Everyone

Nice reading your chatting about and... wonderful how GREAT friends you have all become!!!

{grouphug1} {goodjob}

:comfort: Cyberella: are Elias's stiches out yet?? How did that go??

[cyberella]

hi, 2 all my lovely "sisters in arms" (the brothers dont seem 2 b round much)

sorry 4 only updating u now, but it was a rough time again-
not due 2 the stiches, though!
they had been removed and eventhough i dont think the finger loox all that great, the docs r content-

elias had 2 take antibiotix 4 not having tetanus or an infection and this medication really got 2 him--
he screamed day and nite-times again in pain of belly-cramps and had a couple of infections, high fever and stomach-pain, he still suffers the whole days and nites.

the pediatrician, whom i couldnt reach when i wanted 2 clarify the medication b4 giving it 2 elias, told me yesterday, there was antibiotix on the market way better 2 handle 4 little kiz than the ones the clinic prescribed...
well, good 2 find out now!! the docs holiday coverage i called 4 clarification didnt give me this vital info--- {explode}{bangdesk}{scream})

anyway- i feel terribly guilty 4 not having taken care of the little one better when he crushed his finger in the door and then even giving him such a medication-bomb!!
i feel like a looser-mom rite now!!! :sadeyes:

i really b so very happy once we ship in calm water again...
the roughest time in yeaaars!

thanx 4 being interested in me (and my momentarily madness..)

[Iisrias]

Cyberella, don't be so hard on yourself! You've done all you could to take care of your little one! Besides, if the clinic told you what to do, and you followed instructions, how were you to know that there was something better!

Glad to hear that his finger is healing nicely, scars can change over time - so be patient, it will keep getting better.

We'll all just keep holding 'thumbs' for/with you. (=

Take care of yourself too.

[Shasha]

{hi} there Cyberella and Elias

:bighug: we missed you!!!

You have NOT failed!!! Never in a million years - you have too much love and devotion to give to your children who are very blessed to have you!!!

:comfort: I hope that this is now the end of your struggling season and that from now on things will only get better!

Bighug and love to Elias :bighug:

[Bronwyn]

Dearest Cyberella,

How dare you doubt yourself as a mother. You love and comfort are carrying him through this difficult time and there is nothing you could have done to prevent the accident (accidents happen all the time!!!) and regarding the antibiotics - you were following doctor's orders!! Who are we to not trust what our medical professionals tell us? I'm very glad you found out when you did and hopefully he'll find some relief quickly so the two of you can get back to some peace. Keep us posted and remember we're all here for you.... even if it's thousand of physical miles away.

Love,
Bron

[Iisrias]

Dear Cyberella...where are you?!?!{idk}

I miss you and hope that you and your little one are alright! Come back soon! {friendhug}

[cyberella]

hey, there- lovely girls!!

so much love around here and i took so incredibly long 2 read it and feel so very happy about your worz!!!

well, honey- who would i b not 2 doubt the doctors advice?!
that wouldnt b me, bronwyn, rite!!?!

i was born doubting opinions of "authorities" - thaz what everybody likes about me- especially the "authorities"... :party1: :eyebrow: :party1:

and iz just what it is: an opinion of a someone.. a person, as likely 2 make mistakes as any other human being!
and as we learned now: they r bound 2 make mistakz, just as any1 else..
so, y trust them in the first place-
iz not the health of their babies they destroy...
oh, btw. did u know that children of pharmacisz and doctors in europe r statisticly the kiz with the smallest "per-head"-intake of pharmaceuticals... hope thaz the rite word (hope iz even an xisting word.. *g*)
well, isnt that interesting, hmmm?!

anyway! thank u soooo very much 4 your comfort and warmth!

elias is better- his tummy s still cramping now and then!!

but his finger is recovering- yesterday the blood-crust plus skin on finger tip came off! -well, did the 2 of us scream down the place, as we got a fright!!!!!!
but then: brand new finger underneath- and a tiny thumb-nail seems 2 make his way up... yiiiihaaaa!! :)

[Maya]

Oh, God, poor kid...
See - just reading this makes me feel like...well, I should be the happiest up here... I don't have a family to cook for or deal with accidents like this... and still complaining about the diet...
Jeeeze, I'm just gonna shut my mouth:eyebrow:....

Amazing...you must have amazing power to go through all this and dieting at the same time...

Hope lil finger is better and his tummy, too!!!!!

[cyberella]

well, maya! thank u 4 taking interest and 4 your concern!!

see, u'd deal with problems of the kind if they arose 4 u..
just like anyone is dealing with what life presenz them and we all have our bundles 2 carry..
mine is a sweet blond little angel and a VERY HEAVY ONE WITH OVER 95 KILOGRAMS AND ADOLESENCE-INSANITY...:eyebrow:
and the bundles that come with the both!!
sometimes my back hurz, but all 2gether i mangage and try not 2 go insane and love all about them -well: 2 love the baby is an easy xercise.. the challenge comes later and one is better off when having filled the love tanx with the sweetness of those baby-days!! u'll need it as your provisions 4 the long and bumpy roads ahead!!! :hypnotic:

ps: he's better the last 2 days.. finally!! praise the lord(s?) and nature....and the doc who stiched him up!

[Bronwyn]

Hi Babi! I'm so happy your little Elias has found relief and is feeling better at last! So very glad his finger is healing just fine too. He'll have quite the battle scar to brag about as a young man! And touche re: your questioning the doctors. You are absolutely right that they are only human and I'm sure they make mistakes too. It is scary that we are so at their mercy, but I guess that's what second and third opinions are all about. Anyway, you are the best Mum and he's lucky to have you and I'm glad to hear that you were away for so long because you were finally getting some sleep! Good for you!