Holding Myself Accountable....

[Quiche]

Hello Everyoone!!!

My name is Lorraine and I was off to a great start......AAAAAaaaaand We'RRRrrrre OFF...like a heard of frickin' turtles!!!!

Well.....My start date was July 9th and made it through just fine for 2 weeks had lost 12.5 lbs. You would think that I would have been happy and stuck with it.....I CANNOT BELIEVE I allowed myself to be swayed by friends, family, house guests towards eating out and eating stuff NOT on my plan. I am soooo angry with myself! I have got to just stop abusing myself with food. It's rediculous!

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So I'm making this post to admit my mistake and to recommit to the program and felt the need to finally say hello and make a posting to hold myself accountable for falling off the program. Can anyone offer some advice to steer clear without becoming a hermit when trying to be social or having houseguests? I guess I was afraid to let anyone know that I was on yet "another diet", I just didn't want to be scrutinized and then made fun of because everytime I've tried something it has never worked, so I opted to NOT hear any negativity, but it cost me my progress.....so I'm not going to dwell on it....moving forward and tomorrow's another day.....I'm back to using Sunday to prepare all my lunches for the week and measuring everyting else out in advance. I JUST HAVE TO DO THIS.....and I need to come back here more often so I stay motivated.....thanks for allowing me to clear the air for myself.

Thanks for listening/reading......NOW ONWARD I GO!!!!! :)

Many Thanks,
Lorraine

[Cynthia]

You can do this! Don't beat yourself up... instead, get happy about that 12.5 pounds and look forward :o)

I just got back from a Chinese buffet with my family where I couldn't eat ANYTHING. And you know what? I didn't care! I had a glass of water and enjoyed everyone's company. Once your friends see your progress for themselves they'll have nothing to say to you except encouraging things, like my family did tonight. Tonight at the buffet was new for me, but usually when I eat out I have a plan in mind. Almost any restaurant can make you a plain salad with lemon wedges and grilled chicken, or steak with mushrooms and onions, or fish with salad. You just have to think ahead. There's no reason why you can't still enjoy going out with your friends :o)

On another note... why are your friends making fun of you??? Shame on them, and good for you for trying to improve your life!

[mamaduckling]

This diet is really restrictive on the social life, but like Cynthia said, you can always try to go somewhere where you know you can have things off the menu. Lots of place are very accommodating about taking things off salads that aren't 1PD friendly. I do that a lot. The other thing is, be up front and honest with friends and family and tell them about the success you have already seen and are ready to experience. It was hard for my mother to let go of the fat me and she would always try to tempt me on visits with all of my favorite things. I stayed strong and finally told her that I was doing this for me and that my health meant a lot more than pasta, cookies, and cheeseburgers! After that, and 121 pounds later, she has become my biggest cheerleader. I know it is hard to let the cat out of the bag, because of the fear of failure. I, too, had done every diet under the sun, but this one truly does work not only on your body, but on your mindset as well.

Hang in there, be true to YOU, and the rest will fall into place.

Lisa

[JenJ]

Hey Lorraine :)
How'd your week go?
I hear you about wanting to keep your diet to yourself, in case you mess up, that way no one can judge you about your failures . . . feels safer that way, right?
I use to do that too, not tell anyone about my attempts as loosing weight except maybe a close friend or two, I NEVER told my family.

This time however I felt I HAD to do something different. I realized that by not telling anyone I was almost setting myself up for failure, because I was already doubting my own ability to follow through. So this time I told my family and anyone else who wanted know . . . which sort of made me accountable to all of them, and also made it very hard to cheat in front of them. They were all watching so I had to prepare and stick to the diet. It felt scary, made me feel vulnerable, but I'm glad I did tell them now :) I'm down almost 25 pounds . . . so I am making visible change and they are all proud of me. And most important, I'm proud of myself :)

I also found it is empowering to say, "No Thank You!" with a smile :) So like mamaduckiling said, "be true to YOU"! Be loud and proud of what you are doing for you and show all thoes nay-sayers the error in their ways, prove them wrong! You can do it!

[Quiche]

THANK YOU TO EACH OF YOU!!!! I do appreciate the comments, I have taken all replies to heart and have been feeling much stronger. I was proud of myself this past week.....I am back on track and following the plan to a tee. Was even able to go out with my family and not stray......when out to eat at my fav restaurant and didn't order things I normally would, they asked me if I was feeling okay, aren't you hungry? so of course I had to fill them in on things. I told them about the program I am on......they were very supportive....YIPEEEEE! Family down and friends to go as far as bringing up to speed.....Your are right about telling, help with accountability and to REALLY make sure I follow through for a change on this life long struggle to reduce my weight. But I do feel that I CAN DO THIS, I really really can......I'm done with the doubt, the self sabotage, and the self abuse (mainly guilt i put upon myself).

Thanks Ladies!!!!
Lorraine