un-sympathy and semi-un-support?

[mallory]

i don't know where to post this. i wanted to put it under the support thread, but i suppose the content isn't very supportive. almost ''wag of the finger no no anti support''

all this fibbing, cheating, and bending off the diet people are doing has me a little confused. planning to take a break??? allowing yourself non-diet items? i guess, i just don't understand why you would do that to yourself. to your body. to your mind.

we paid a bunch of money to change our lives.. and judging by everyone's ticker, they're changing. it's working. we're being given back our thin-hood for what, in semi-retrospect, seems like a minute price. i'm not sure why anyone would want to to jeopardize that for company, birthday, or a cookie and cupcake.

i've been thinking about this a lot lately..i mean... it's all about a lack of conviction i guess. hell, it has probably been a lack of conviction that made us all fat anyway. unable to control urges, eating the stuff we know is bad for us, and having emotional attachment to food instead of ourselves.


but i feel like this diet is a gift... a secret gift... a great f'n gift and to deviate slightly because we're weak for a moment... throws all that hard work away.
i feel like this diet isn't just a numbers game. deviate, gain 5 lbs, diet 2 weeks, lose 7 lbs... blah blah etc. i feel like this diet is the first step to changing our lives... for the better, for the control, for our kids, for ourselves.
change is a hard thing. no one ever said it was easy.
and i feel as thought i have almost no sympathy for those who do deviate.
does anyone else feel this way?
i just don't get it.
un-sympathy is so unlike me.

[Dayanira]

Well said! To plan to deviate!!???? C'mon people!

[gmagirl]

Love your honesty Mallory! I feel like I'm finally getting it. I have been dieting since the 8th grade and have never had the success I am experiencing now on this diet. I don't even feel like I need the excuses because I am genuinely enjoying eating healthy. I watch other people making food choices I used to make all the time and all I can think of is no wonder everone is on medication for this or that. Now that I'm eating properly, I can't believe the changes in the way my body feels. I had horrible foot problems, aches and pains . . . now these things are a non issue. Unbelievable what certain foods do to our bodies and we blame everything but the food we put in our bodies. My family hasn't seen me in awhile and I am excited to see their faces when they see the new me this weekend. I've gone from a size 16-18 to a comfortable 10 and just went shopping for the first time since being on this diet. Before, every shopping trip ended in tears. This shopping trip was pure joy and I didn't cry until I was driving down my street on my way home thinking, I can't believe I'm wearing a size 10! Oh, just want to also mention I bought 3 belts . . . I can't remember the last time I wore a belt to accentuate my waist as I was so used to buying big and long to cover everything when there was no waist. I remind myself every day how lucky I am to have discovered Dr. Cohen and this fabulous diet! No more excuses, only good choices! Carol

[ElizabethRedux]

Couldn't agree more with you, Mallory!!! Ditto!

[faith]

I agree absolutely mallory! I've only been at this for 3 weeks, but have lost 15lbs...and to jeopordize that?...not an option for me. I have cravings, but then I think, why would i want to gain back what has disappeared? Thank you for your honesty.

[Starfish]

Thanks for posting this. I recently deviated and I was feeling super bad and super guilty and really mad at myself. I went on a turn around trip with my best friend last weekend in which we were offered a free buffet. My excuse to myself was that it was free and why waste it. Oh yeah and the famous "I'll just treat myself" came to mind. Anyway, my point is, I certainly could have said no, but I didn't. And of course it felt good to eat at the time, but I felt horrible afterward. I too feel like we have been given a gift and that we should appreciate it. I needed this kick in the butt to remind me, so thank you

[Watergirl]

I also agree with this too. This is only day 11, but my thinking is that this will already change the entire summer for me and I don't want it to take any longer than necessary. For me this plan is in some ways easier than the last one that I was on because for optimum results, deviating is not an option.

[mallory]

awesome. i'm on day thirty something... and i'm sure as time passes, the mundane will set in and deviations will become more tempting. more rationalized. that i'll get sick of that damn chicken curry and want REAL THAI FOOD!?!?
but i think you really have to have the frame of mind of 'change' to be on this diet. i don't know about ya'll, but i was sick of my life. the feeling of it being out of control. i used to scan pro-ana sites just to find good zero calorie recipes!? i recently bought my first full body mirror and for the first time since ... grade school, can handle looking at my reflection. i'm not the fat, funny side kick of a friend any more, you know? i feel like i can make heads turn too :)
great job guys. i'm really glad to read all this and know that i'm not alone, that you guys are going strong, and that you're all committed. if we were in a room right now we'd do that thing where we put our fists in a circle and squeal something cliche like ''go team!!"
;)

[RSX11M]

The Super Model Kate Moss said it all - her key to staying thin is the following mantra:-

'No food tastes as good as being thin feels'

Quad erat demonstrandum

RSX

[KMac]

So true Mallory, I 'm glad I read that this morning-
I needed a kick in the a$$.
:)