how do you get your spouse to stop tempting you on purpose????

[ppoyster]

I was going strong for the first couple of weeks. I'm now on week 3 and struggling. My husband has been trying to tempt me with chocolate, chips, basically anything he knows I like. He will literally shove it in my face and say "....come on...just one bite....mmmm.....you know it's good..." It almost feels like he wants me to fail at losing weight. I withstood his attempts until tonight. I had a couple extra bites of the meat for dinner and had chips with him when we were watching a show on television. So needless to say I feel like I'm going to fail at yet another diet. I was doing so well too. I even lost 13 pounds already. I don't know. Maybe he just wants me to stay heavy because he has extra weight on him too. How do I get myself out of this funk with him trying to keep me here????

[apachejenn]

This is very disrespectful of him, even if he thinks it's a joke. Politely but firmly let him know that he needs to stop. He thinks that eating is something you do together, and he wants you to eat what he eats, because maybe he doesn't want to change as well. Tell him that it is fine that he wants these things as you aren't going to force him to do something he doesn't want to, but to please be respectful of your choices and stop trying to get you to fail at the diet.

[I MUNCH SNOW]

Yeah, not cool for the hubster to be doing that. I mean, it's pretty 4th grader for him to be doing that to you. I'd lay down the law and tell him it's not okay. You not only want to lose weight, but that you NEED to. (That's the line I told my other half when I started). Tell him to be supportive, so you can have a future together. I almost wanna smack your hubby for my benefit. Is that wrong? Just kidding of course....

Bummer, but glad you came here for a cheer up. Seriously, tomorrow is a new day. Dust yourself off and remind yourself of how well you're doing. Ignore the speed bump you hit today with the (unmentionable sugar object) and give it a go again. :)

[julie]

I'm with Jenn. You have to have a heart-to-heart with him. He's your husband and he must care about you. Possibly he's afraid of you being too skinny and being attractive to others, perhaps he feels guilty because he knows he should be doing it too and isn't - who knows? But I think if you speak from your heart and tell him how important this is to you and how much his temptations mess with your plan, he will stop.

Good luck!

[ppoyster]

Thanks guys. I think he thinks it's funny or something. Maybe I'll just tell him I'm trying to lose weight so all the guys are jealous of the skinny hottie he has on his arm. :) Yesterday was just rough. I was already stressed out from work and then he was just adding to that. Thanks for all the advice and encouragement. We will all make it through this one day at a time. :)