Help, I am sinking...or maybe sunk?

[2Bslim]

I am so off the program. I start every day with great intentions and then before I know it I have popped something into my mouth, swallowed it (and don't even enjoy it )and feel guilty after and always ask....Why did I do that, over and over again.
I feel like the day is a waste. I have such cravings and can't seem to get in control of them for more than a day and half or so. I like baking, chips, even grouse store bought stuff, yogurt and some stuff that is no even bad, but definitly no Cohen.
Any advice? I KNOW what to do, but can't seem to motivate myself any longer. I have about 18 pounds to go ( lost 42 already). I want to get done so bad... but forget how badly when the temptations are in front of me. I don't even take time to think.. I just act. PLEASe Help me!
I am getting tired to making separate things for me and my family.

[2Bslim]

This is the third time I am trying this.. Please see my sinking post in the coffee clutch section. I really need feedback!
Also, has anyone had their period stop during Cohen?

[Rose Marie]

Hi ,
Maybe it i quiet because it is a holiday in the US. Everyone has difficult times with this but you can get through it! My mentor old me that I have to think of the food as my medicine. That really stuck wih me. I know that I do not want to have to take real medicine in the future for things caused by being overweight so I see this program as a way to keep that from happening. That plus being abl to wear clothes that were too small last Spring is keing me going. Hang in there!!
RoseMarie

[PhyllisRis]

Hi 2BSlim....
I'm kind of feeling the same as you....I have only 15 more pounds to go and I've been on this plan over 10 months now. I'm getting tired of it and would really like to have some "normal" food again! BUT....we need to stay strong. Let's not allow those little cheats to get in the way of our total success! I wonder if deep down, subconsciously we're really having a hard time dealing with the fact that we no longer have our fat to hide behind and that's what's allowing little cheats to creep in?! Let's make a pact to stay on plan 100% and see this thing to the end! We are rounding the far turn and heading into the homestretch.....let's throw the monkey off our backs and sprint to the finish line!!!! WE CAN DO THIS!!!
Hang in there...
Phyllis

[KMac]

I feel all of what you are saying, the past few days I have been tired of the food, weighing etc. Really feeling sorry for myself, but reading your posts I know I'm not alone. After a crazy week of over extended myself, and some stress going on- I just wanted to cheat, chocolate, wine, whatever. But I cooked up my apple & had another cup of green tea- and it was ok. I was bothered by someone who asked me about the diet and then told me how she knew someone who was on it, lost he weight and gained it all back and then sort of made fun of the no exercising. My husband said stay strong and clear your mind, people get jealous of the weight loss, just keep at it your doing great. It was like I had to visualize pushing negativity away, cheating away and making a strong effort to stay strong. I'm sorry I'm rambling on, I just had to get that out of my system- tomorrow is a new day.
I hope you all stay strong and have a great day. :)

[2Bslim]

Thanks guys! I know that I am not alone. I think I did well today. I totally messed up this morning....2 muffins at breakfast (that my kids decided they didn't want and were already buttered and warmed.... ugh! and then later I had 2 slices of zucchini bread ( at least it had 1 cohen ingredient eh?) Then I decided that I could start fresh with my lunch and I had complete control this afternoon... even after frying bacon for the family's meal. I used to always taste that! I am fighting for the end, but it is going to be hard. We have grad dinners, baby showers, birthdays galore and sunday school picnic. I hate always bringing something different along. Other people are asking when I am going to start eating normal again... I like to think they are just wondering when I will eat what they do. Are they trying to sabatoge this? Also I have had so many comments about how great I look and I could quit now and be just fine. I have already raised my goal weight 15 pounds becuase I don't want to be skinny... why don't they lay off and just encourage eh?
Well, I got that off my chest too. I hope and pray that I can survive this detox again. I know in order to be successful at this diet and to acheive the metabolism that we want we need to keep clean and finish the refeed. Please keep my in your prayers, I need the strength.
Thanks
Phyllis, let's keep in touch, I will challenge you. :)

Teresa

[Maverick]

2B, I think you just need someone to tell you they understand and I do. You all ready know what you need to do, so as we say in the States - JUST DO IT! OK, I borrowed that from Nike, but you get my point.

The worse thing anyone can do is beat themselves up.

So, knock it off, cut yourself some slack and just start again.

I know when I quit smoking, it took several tries before I finally did it. That was just what I had to go through, I guess.

[Shasha]

{hi} there 2Bslim

Firstly let me say {congrats} on having lost 42 pounds!!
Well done!!! I’m really proud of you!!!

I am really sorry to see that you are finding yourself in such a dangerous place at this very moment in time… :comfort:

I wish I could bring you home with me and sort you out, once and for all, so you can shed those last 18 pounds, but, we both know that can’t happen…

Instead, I would like to draw your attention to the fact that you and I both know that you are standing at a fork in the road…


and that the time to choose and make a change is now!!!

If you go left and continue doing what you are currently doing, you will find this road go forward for a little while… then slowly, you begin to gain back weight… and the road ends up making a U-turn, taking you back to where you came from… the result, when you get there, you will be very unhappy, you will wish, if only I had not done this, if only I had pushed through, completed my Re-feeding Program and followed the Maintenance Program... then I would not have suffered all this pain again… you will decide, that’s enough, I must do something and… you will begin again… new blood tests, new diet and a whole lot of hard work… not even to mention the negative feelings about gaining weight again!

BUT I DON’T WANT YOU TO GO LEFT!!! I WANT YOU TO GO RIGHT!!! IE: in the opposite direction!

Going right means STOPPING in your tracks and changing your actions. Realizing that this is NOW the time to take action and to complete this.

Yes, your hormones are in a terrible mess and this results in cravings… Please go and read my post: 2009: Have you fallen off the bus?? – I checked for you, it’s currently on page 5 of the SUPPORT thread. I believe this will really help you to understand how your hormones are playing a big part.

Then, please do whatever it takes, to make sure that you STAY ON THE RIGHT SIDE of the ROAD!!! Don't go anywhere near left...

That can mean running to the Forum, calling a friend, taking a bubble bath, walking your dog... cleaning out your house from all tempations, (not by eating these!!) asking friends and family to support your, wearing an elastic on your arm and shooting yourself on the arm as a wake up call - if all else fails, use tape!! but don't let that food near you - it's NOT WORTH THE PAIN OF GAINING IT ALL BACK AGAIN!!

I know you can do it!!! I’m cheering for you! {cheerleader} NOW IS THE TIME TO STAY RIGHT!

[PhyllisRis]

Hi...
So far today I have not cheated, but I used up all 5 of my sticks of gum by 3pm today! I think we all need to stay tuf and get through this period. Maybe there's something in the air??? It could all be some crazy terrorist plot....put something in the air that makes people eat themselves silly and then walk in and take over the country! (just kidding....at least I THINK I'm kidding!!! LOL)
Phyllis

[Shasha]

{hi} there to all the Buddies in the BOAT!

First things first:

THIS BOAT IS GOING TO STAY A FLOAT!! simply because you cannot allow yourself to go back to where you so painstakingly have come from! {noway}

It’s got to be focus and forwards to the finish line – no matter what! and I know, that you have come this far, you can do it!!!

I hope you don’t mind, but I’ve joined together the two threads:

Help, I am sinking...or maybe sunk?
and
Sinking
both started by 2Bslim, minutes apart from each other. When we keep the same topic together, it keeps the Forum neat and you don’t have to go all over looking for replies… it just makes for easier reading...

[Shasha]

{hi} there Phyllis

Please take a second vitamin each day for the next 10 days, I really believe this will help…

As you enjoy the fresh feeling that comes from popping in a gum stick, my suggestion would be: how about cutting your gum into smaller pieces – that way it lasts longer!

Again, ladies, I cannot urge it enough: please do stay in the boat!!

Let’s face it – if your doctor told you that you were allergic to nuts, the next time you ate nuts you were going to swell up and feel aweful! :sick: You would do whatever it took to make sure you stay away from nuts. Well, tell yourself that right now you are allergic to everything that is not part of your diet. If you eat anything not on plan, not weighed properly, you will have an allergic reaction: swell up and feel aweful!! :sick:

... and we don't want that to happen, {noway} so, please do stay in that boat!!!

[KMac]

Hello All,
I think its something in the air, because a lot of my girlfriends are going through a funk, or something hormonal- and there not even on a diet. I'm happy I am not blaming it on bad food choices, to much drinking etc (like my friends are). Its good to know what ever funk, or hormon surge I'm having its not because I've overloaded my body with sugar & junk & more weight. I'm just going to ride this out, I'm starting to feel better already, I spent some time in the kitchen making up some new goodies ( DC approved).
So let us all take a deep breath and repeat " THis is not forever & I can do this"
Have a great day :)

[PINKED]

AMEN to everything that has been said! I'm feeling it too because I made the conscious decision to deviate for my 20th anniversary for dinner. I assure you that I am back in the boat and hope someone else is driving because my mind is wandering. I even laid out my crackers, gum and fruit so I would know just how much I would have left to eat during the day. If we were told to count the number of breaths to inhale during the day, I would do that too because I am hitting my target weight no matter what!!!

[Key]

Love your determination, Stephanie!

Could it be a full moon? Planetary alignment? I have it too - I've been much hungrier recently (but I have not deviated). More water, please.

Key

[PhyllisRis]

Thank you Shasha.....I've been thinking about the vitamin thing lately and since YOU suggested it I'm going to start taking a second one each day.
I'll let y'all know how it works....(you may need to remind me about the whole thing in a few days....someheimers....you know, just can't remember sometimes!! LOL)
phyllis

[Dayanira]

I stopped checking the Forum for a few days and come back and find all these marble pillars cracking and trembling??!!!

C'mon diet buddies! Just check it up and keep going straight!

We HAVE TO KEEP GOING! WE NEED TO GET TO THE FINISH LINE!

I like Shasha's comparison of bad food with allergies. Just imagine yourselves with those swollen lips when food that is not Cohen goes through your mouths. Remember all those reactions that people with allergies get when they eat something wrong for their diet.

Tonight I did my diet food shopping and spent more than a hour weighing, marking and putting it in different containers. Yeah, I'm kind of sick of it, BUT I've started to see the light at the end of the tunnel! I hope you have started to see it too

Be strong,
Dayanira

[PhyllisRis]

Thank you Dayinara....I think I'm coming out of my funk a little bit. I took a vitamin this morning at breakfast and didn't get that hungry monster lurking around! AND...duh, I started chewing only a half stick of gum and found that to be just as refreshing as a whole stick!{duh}
Phyllis

[PINKED]

We HAVE TO KEEP GOING! WE NEED TO GET TO THE FINISH LINE! [/B]

Be strong,
Dayanira

GREAT COMMENT, Dayanira! I've found the mortar and filled up all of my cracks (oh, that sounds bad). I'm running the race to the finish line with 28# to go and I see the light in a BIG Way. No deviations, this phase of the moon is over and the planets are re-aligned!!!

[Dayanira]

Phyllis,
What a great tip Shasha gave you in regards of the chewing gum! I did that today, because I only had one more left in the package, I was going for a long drive to meet a friend from the US at a bar. I needed the second one while being there, too.

[PhyllisRis]

Yeah.....when Shasha recommended the half stick of gum it was a DUH moment for me!! How come I hadn't thought of that before?

[bean picker]

Phyllis -

You only have 12 pounds left to go. Hang in there, you're about at the home stretch. You have made GREAT progress! You have been an example to me, and I am sure so many others. You can do it!!!

[sdp126]

I have a hard time just chewing ONE piece of gum. Today, to break my pack a day (2 pack a day) gum habit, I've laid out my 5 pieces of gum and may try cutting them in half to make it through the day. YIKES!! I'm a gum junkie.

Great suggestion, y'all.

Suzanne

[KMac]

I understand the gum junkie feel, I was chewing to much gum, I had to stop.
Its been almost 2 weeks w/out a piece of gum, the 1st few days were hard. I have TMJ & a lot of dental work in my mouth and the thought of sitting in a dentist chair & the $$, I put the gum away.
Goodluck :)