Tired of explaining the diet to others, yet?

[sdp126]

I really love that people notice that I've lost weight, but then the conversation always turns to "How are you doing it?"

Don't get me wrong. I am happy to talk about this diet, and some people really want to learn about it and actually follow up and google it.

However, what I'm growing weary of is the people who, as I'm explaining it to them, come up with dozens of excuses about why it won't work for them: "it's too expensive", "I couldn't go without carbs", etc., etc.

Add to that, the people I see regularly who repeatedly ask, "So what is that diet you're doing?"

ARGH - I've told you 10 times, already. (Just venting here)

I've decided I'm going to make up business cards with the URL for the 1st personal diet on them and just quietly hand them the card and say, "The diet speaks for itself."

This way I don't end up explaining the diet while listening to all their excuses.

God love 'em. If they really want to do it, they'll google it and do some research.

Anyone else had a similar experience?

Suzanne

[SurferGirl]

Hi Suzanne,

I totally know what you mean. I have all these people who talk to me about how they are so serious about losing weight, and they've tried everything, and they really want to know what I'm doing. I never sugar coat it, I always say, it's a lot of commitment, its not easy, but IT WORKS! When I'm finished explaining it some people want the website, and most give excuses why weight watchers is better, or jenny craig, or whatever. And then, when they start gaining back the weight they lose on whatever or they're eating junk, they avoid me like I'm their mom or something. I want to encourage people to be the best version of themselves but I am not the diet police, and I totally understand how freaking hard it is to lose weight, and stick to a plan. I also understand that until you are actually SERIOUS about losing weight, you probably aren't ready to try to stick to 1pd. But from my perspective, this is the way to lose weight once you're serious. It's the only thing that has really worked for me.
Anyways, I would love to encourage others to actually do 1PD and change their lives, but I don't like being someone you justify why you can't lose weight to, or someone you hide from when you go to the candy jar. It's just ridiculous!
So yes suzanne, I am with you. And I think venting is a good thing. I certainly won't stop encouraging people to look into 1PD but it sure is annoying sometimes when they aren't really serious.

[sdp126]

Thanks for commiserating, SurferGirl. I just smile and write down the URL for them. After repeatedly seeing me getting smaller, some have pursued it, but not taken the plunge.

I do think I'm ready to lose weight, but I also think this diet makes it doable. You are right it's a commitment, but I've been committed to diets before where I couldn't maintain the commitment because something about it seemed like too much of a sacrifice or I wasn't getting the desired results.

This diet seems perfect for me (and so many others).

Wish more people would try it.

(and stop JUST asking about it)

Suzanne

[PhyllisRis]

Amen, Amen, Amen!!!

[KMac]

I agree girls, but what I don't like is when they doubt what your saying, "Really? aren't you worried about gaining it back when its over?" Its like I'm trying to sell them on it, I guess when they're not opened to it- they are not ready.

[BaD_cApS]

I can totally relate, but my problem is that now everyone at my work thinks I'm crazy! I've worked at this office for 2 1/2 years, and there's always candy, cookies, cake, etc. Plus, they'll just randomly buy us lunches like fried chicken, pizza, etc. Now that I've been on the diet for about 2 months, people are starting to notice my weight loss and of course, asking me what I'm doing. But when I tell them what I'm doing, they just look at me like I'm crazy! No one has asked for the diet info, they just look really surprised. They've kind of started making fun of my tiny lunches and the fact that I never eat the snacks that get brought in. The other day, we had a tray of strawberries, and I was mocked because I refused to eat them. It kind of sucks! I just try to keep to myself and not bring it up. :sadeyes:

My husband is taking a completely different approach to people's comments. He's also doing the diet, and he's lost 65 lbs in 2 months (men), but when people ask him if he's lost weight, he looks them straight in the eye and denies it! He flat out lies and says no, but I don't think he can keep that up much longer...

[Key]

I like your husband's sense of humor, Badcaps!

Key

[OrlandoOz]

The different reaction of people when they see me is very interesting. I have had people say... STOP your getting too thin... or laugh when I show up with my food for an office celebration. I have even had people ask my office counterpart if I am ill. Of course, there are my wonderfully supportive friends and family... those are the ones I choose to hear, the others I just inwardly smile and continue along my way.

When asked I definately talk of the program and give them the link to SUCCESS. If they are serious they will follow up. I like the business card idea.

I enjoyed reading of the gentleman who states he is not losing weight.... how funny is that... I can just see peoples puzzled faces :thinking:

[4MAMA]

Awesome inquiry, Suzanne! I just went through this yesterday on the macadam at school. Many women were taking notice of my transformation, and although I enjoyed all their positive flattery, I became exhausted from explaining everything.

The idea of temporarily giving up alcohol and carbs was like as if I said they would have to walk around top less, too! We're not adolescents anymore. We have eaten it all. Now it's time to settle down and make a commitment to our selves. Commitment mirrors everything in life. School, career, relationships, marriage, starting a family, etc...

One more thing, later that evening I deviated and felt I must have been jinxed! It's a funny thing flattery. When received, it can sometimes give a false sense of comfort and security and it allows the devil to con you into thinking "one little taste wont hurt, you're already doing soo well!!" DON'T FALL FOR IT, AS I DID!

I was NOT my 100% self. I've resolved NOT to explain myself anymore to anyone. "Thank you" will be my only response and that I've eliminated foods which harm my health!! There you have it ladies!!!

Bottom line: anything worth having for requires WORK!

This is what works for ME because I was ready, and it was TIME!

Thank you for sharing Suzanne, hope all is going well for you!

K

[sdp126]

Things are going very well, Kelli. Good to see you.

Orlando - funny you should mention people telling you to "STOP!" I had a good friend tell me that yesterday, too.

Her explanation was that if I got to a size 8, I am taller than her and would make her look fat. She wasn't joking either.

Suzanne

[PhyllisRis]

I've had several interesting encounters like these this week. Today our whole Tech department was working at the high school where I used to work for about 5 years before getting transferred to the middle school. I saw a couple of teachers who were totally amazed at my transformation. One student (who was at my middle school last year) stopped me in the hall and asked me to "say some words" so he could make sure it was really me!!!! Isn't that special??!!
The only thing that worries me about all this explaining I have to do and all the amazement that people express, is the people who are around me all the time and have to listen to my explanations over and over again. People like my husband, co-workers, etc. I don't want to sound like I'm bragging or anything when talking to others, and I don't want to sound like a broken record, either. I suppose some day things will settle down and become more real....but until people get used to the NEW me, I'll have to put up with all the oggling and explanations.
I guess there could be worse things in life, though, right!!!?? LOL
Hang in there and be thankful we're explaining a really happy time of our lives and not something more dire like an illness.
Phyllis

[sdp126]

Hang in there and be thankful we're explaining a really happy time of our lives and not something more dire like an illness

Oh, Phyllis, please don't think that this minor frustration can ruin my day or week or month. It was just a gripe I wanted to share. Better to vent it here where people understand, right?

I know you've been through a lot. I've been through different things that are deeply personal and not things I can share on a message board. Perhaps those things weren't potentially deadly, but they still caused plenty of suffering and make me vividly aware of how wonderful this moment is in my life.

I hope you won't worry too much that these small gripes or frustrations are a sign that we are ungrateful or have lost sight of the preciousness of these good times.

God bless you for caring,

Suzanne

[PhyllisRis]

Oh I'm not worried at all and I know you were just venting....that's cool!! Sorry if I came off as preachy, I didn't mean to. I share those same little gripes as you guys....just trying not to let those things and the stress of life get to me anymore! smile....
Talking about and explaining the diet over and over again is a lot like people asking "when are you due" when you're pregnant and about to burst!! I can remember wanting to wear a sign, with my due date scrolled on it, around my neck!!! :)

I hope you, and all the other mothers on this forum, have a WONDERFUL MOTHER'S DAY!!

Love ya all...
Phyllis